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Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Infidelity

According to Wikipedia, Infidelity (colloquially known as cheatingadultery, or having an affair) most commonly refers to a breach of an expectation of sexual and or emotional exclusivity expressed or implied in an intimate relationship
Somehow, for someone who doesn't do formalities, it is widely known as cheating. 


It is just sad that in a relationship, it comes to a point that one is challenged in letting go of that grasp in the faithfulness pole. Many are those who overcome it, understand it and unfortunately, those who does not survive the test. 




Let us try to understand and see why and how infidelity happens. This may pertain to any given gender in a relationship though. 

Factor A : Distance. There are a lot of sayings about long distance relationships. One famous line is: Distance makes the heart go fonder. But let us not forget: When the cat is away, the mouse will play. Yes, we can laugh about it simply because it is true. We are only human beings after all. The lack of the presence of our loved one on our side denotes some kind of a go-sign for some people to do the things that they cannot do when their partner is near.

Factor B : Boredom. You do everything together, do the same things together, meet the same people together. Somehow, it gets down to your nerves and your mind is aching for more. However, some people interprets this kind of feeling as they feel the need of another person to fill out on what was lacking. 

Factor C : Unhappiness. Staying in a relationship even though you feel like there is nothing there anymore but a blank space. Couples tend to grow apart from various reasons, however, they are afraid in letting go of their partners. 

Factor D : Unfulfilled. There are just some people who are not completely happy with being monogamous. It depends on how one person was brought up and the things that they were exposed to while growing up. 

Factor E : Technology. With how gadgets and the internet seems to be swarming in every corners of the tinsel town, everybody has an access to communication. This gives way to connecting with the past and people who are included in your might have been.

Factor F : Itchiness. Hah! This one is actually something that I made up. Actually, the only point that I am trying to make is that when one is attached already, don't bother asking for their email, number or facebook account. 

I know that there are still a lot of factors which causes infidelity. We are at an era where people are smarter, cunnier ( am I right?) and sneakier so we have to learn how to out do them. I have read that we are like angels built in two's. Unfortunately, we were separated and we are given this life to find our partners. Remember, built in two's and not three's.  No other attachments included. Let's not make this world much worse than what it is now. 

Remember, Karma is just around the corner... so better be careful! 

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Small Things Matter

There are times that in a relationship, you get a little too comfortable with each other that you tend to neglect things that matter.In some ways, more or less, it's true. How we stand in a relationship is exceptionally relevant in making it actually work. 






I'm not sure with how men think, but for women, I know that even the smallest act matters. 
The feeling of making you feel important by your partner is by far the happiest feeling in the world and in contrast to that, the slightest feeling of being neglected crushes almost everything into pieces. 


The funny thing is, most men are clueless about this. Instead of actually grasping the fact that they've hurt somebody, they tend to forcefully push their pointless argument that they did nothing wrong. Thus, making their partners feel more like an idiot by having to explain bit by bit on why they were acting like such a crybaby.


From what I've studied before, NEGLIGENCE  is a failure to exercise the care that a reasonably prudent person would exercise in like circumstances.It is also stated that it involves harm caused by carelessness. 
Ha! So being so careless is the root of negligence. Careless because you are too settled in your relationship that you think that nothing could ever go wrong. Not even by intentional or unintentional forgetting to do the small things that you don't think matters. The thing is, they do. They do matter big time that not even the word "sorry" can make up for it. 


From wikipedia, Through civil litigation, if an injured person proves that another person acted negligently to cause his injury, he can recover damages to compensate for his harm.
Compensate huh? Sometimes, it's just funny how some people act clueless about things like this. Not even exerting efforts to COMPENSATE for the damage that they did. They just let time pass, and hopefully they get to be forgiven. 


STFU! An excerpt from the movie Monster In Law: 

I just want a sweet guy, you know a guy who's strong but still opens the door once in a while. Who notices things and you know, maybe makes a difference. 

Unfortunately, these kind of guys either exists only in movies or in reality, an endangered specie or simply extinct.