Basic Principles

Basic Principles:

I know, I'm a little bit late on the news but two nights ago, I watched Will Smith's movie entitled Hitch. Actually, I think I knew it when this movie was first released in the big screen, but I guess it just didn't caught my interest. If only I had known about the plot of the story, I would've watched it. From the beginning until the end, I didn't want to blink my eye or let a good line pass out of my earshot. The reason? I liked it and enjoyed it just because I think that everything that Will Smith makes sense.
They say finding true love (yeah, corny!) is as difficult as searching for a needle in a haystack. Would you agree? As a matter of fact, I do believe in that phrase. I am no relationship expert nor a psychologist but I have seen too much heartbreaks and happily ever after couples to say that it falling in love is quite easier said than done. 

Personals will show that when it comes to finding a special relationship, you can indeed find a needle in a haystack with the right help.
-Yahoo! Personals Declares Valentine's Day ``National Call in Single Day''.

Yep! It said "RIGHT HELP", but do we really need one? Is there really such thing as BASIC PRINCIPLES to follow in order for us to find our soulmate?  Or do we need to hire or ask someone else to help us GET it?
I still think that before getting into a relationship, you need to learn some of these things:


1. BE YOURSELF - Posing as a different person to attract your subject of affection may be very common these days, but it definitely isn't going to last long. Wouldn't it be nice for them to start loving you as you are?

2. TRUST - Confidence in yourself is essential. It is quite difficult to trust someone who doesn't even believe in himself. Learn how to trust yourself and everything else follows.

3. PATIENCE - All things come in the right time and in the right place. Learn how to wait and don't rush things.

4. FRIENDSHIP - Building friendship is as hard as getting someone to trust you. But a lot of couples that lasts a lifetime has treated each other as each other's bestfriend.

5. FIDELITY - Of course, this is very important. Learning how to be faithful is difficult but you only have one heart to beat for one person..

6. COMMUNICATE - Learn not only how to speak up but to listen as well. A relationship is a two way path. Learn how to see also, as they say, actions speak louder than words.

7. EMPHATIZE - Knowing and learning how to be in someone else's shoes is showing that you can  value their interests and thoughts.

Remember that not all relationships are perfect, and its is very random and difficult that we find our ideal person. Although I think that before finding someone to love, learn how to love yourself first.Love unconditionally. Expect nothing in return and never stop loving even if you have been hurt before. 

There is always the risk of getting hurt, so remember to fully love and trust in your constant decision to love rather than fear. And most importantly, do not force love. It will come in good time—perhaps not with the person you initially want, but love definitely will come if you are willing to share it with someone.